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I totally agree 100%. I'm currently going through that mess.

Hi Okelele,
Sorry it's taken a while before swinging to your story as I had promised. Man, things are just upside down currently in my marriage and I can't think straight. I think I'm depressed. As I write this, I'm in a bar drinking alone on Valentine's having escaped from my wife who doesn't want to sit next to me or talk but will only show interest when I go out. After locking herself the whole day in the bedroom, now that I've left the house she's calling me left right and center. Anyway, congrats bro for quitting alcohol. For me, I'm becoming a drunkard. Pray for me if u can ...or not. But thanks for sharing such an inspiring story. Maybe one day I'll do the same.

Hi Mattja,
To put things into context, I hardly go out. It's only once in a while. When I'm home nowadays she spends most of her time in the bedroom alone with the baby. She doesn't want to talk to me. In fact this is how we've spent the whole of today on Valentine's. I decided to go see a friend for a drink and now when I just sit, she starts calling accusing me of being irresponsible. That which kind of man leaves his woman on Valentine's to go meet his friend. And now she's asking me to come out clean if I'm seeing someone else. I'm just done. I'm even starting to become alcoholic.

Hi Archie, congrats on your jubilee year. I'm three years in marriage and I can tell you, i think marriage is overrated. At this point in time I wish I could trade places with you. So, enjoy your singlehood my sister and be content. Focus on self care, make more money, travel the world and if for whatever reason you feel lonely and want a partner, get a mature man, preferably a widower who is rich. And this will add flavor to your life.

Thank you Okelele for your advise. My big sister came over yesterday to talk to her. Lemme see how it goes. I tried checking therapy options but these are quite expensive. Plus, I just don't feel comfortable discussing my issues with someone openly. I read your post on staying sober after you quit alcohol and I must congratulate you. For me I've tried stopping but after a week I can't just hold out. But am not a heavy drinker. I'll drop by later after work and leave a comment on your story.

First off, I can see this site is knew and I must say thank you for whoever thought of this idea. Perhaps I can get help from here. I am so ashamed to share my story publicly because mine seemed like a perfect marriage for the last 2 years I have been married. This is our 3rd year and my wife seems to find fault in everything I do. She's a stay home wife, mother to our eight months girl but...goodness, I don't think I can go on like this with her. Like yesterday after work I passed by a local bar just to have a few drinks, actually I took 3 bottles of Guinness and went home at around 10pm. She refused to open the door for me and I slept in the car. This is not the first time it's happening. I'm planning to move out by March this year but she's clueless. I'm so so tired with her and now I'm almost beginning to hate her.