<![CDATA[About To Call It Quits]]>First off, I can see this site is knew and I must say thank you for whoever thought of this idea. Perhaps I can get help from here. I am so ashamed to share my story publicly because mine seemed like a perfect marriage for the last 2 years I have been married. This is our 3rd year and my wife seems to find fault in everything I do. She's a stay home wife, mother to our eight months girl but...goodness, I don't think I can go on like this with her. Like yesterday after work I passed by a local bar just to have a few drinks, actually I took 3 bottles of Guinness and went home at around 10pm. She refused to open the door for me and I slept in the car. This is not the first time it's happening. I'm planning to move out by March this year but she's clueless. I'm so so tired with her and now I'm almost beginning to hate her.

]]>http://localhost:4567/topic/16/about-to-call-it-quitsRSS for NodeMon, 13 Apr 2026 20:04:02 GMTFri, 06 Feb 2026 13:07:42 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to About To Call It Quits on Thu, 26 Feb 2026 16:45:30 GMT]]>Hey Nameless,

Thanks for sharing more. It sounds very lonely and frustrating to feel like you're walking on eggshells in your own home, especially on a day like Valentine's. I can hear how exhausted and 'done' you are.

Okelele's point about postpartum really stands out to me, even more so after reading your last message. Spending all day in the bedroom with the baby, the withdrawal, the sudden accusations-these can be classic signs of postpartum depression or anxiety. It doesn't excuse locking you out, but it might explain the 'why' behind her behavior. She might be struggling just as much as you are, but in a different, invisible way.

I know you said therapy is expensive and feels uncomfortable, but maybe there's a middle ground. Could you start by talking to our trusted counsellors here on DigiBonga or a religious leader together? Sometimes framing it as 'I'm worried about us and I'm worried about you' can open a door that anger can't.

Moving out might feel like the only answer right now, but leaving a wife who might be suffering from a serious medical condition like PPD could have heavy consequences for her and your daughter. Please, before you make a decision, try to get to the bottom of what's really going on with her. You both deserve that.

Also, I want to offer a little perspective from experience: year 3 is notoriously hard for many marriages, and it’s even tougher with a firstborn. That’s when the reality of responsibility sets in, childhood fades away, and the seriousness of life hits. I struggled in year 3 myself after we had our firstborn. It doesn’t make the pain any less real, but I hope it helps to know your situation isn’t unique- and it is possible to come through it.

]]>http://localhost:4567/post/49http://localhost:4567/post/49Thu, 26 Feb 2026 16:45:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to About To Call It Quits on Sat, 14 Feb 2026 13:10:48 GMT]]>Hi Mattja,
To put things into context, I hardly go out. It's only once in a while. When I'm home nowadays she spends most of her time in the bedroom alone with the baby. She doesn't want to talk to me. In fact this is how we've spent the whole of today on Valentine's. I decided to go see a friend for a drink and now when I just sit, she starts calling accusing me of being irresponsible. That which kind of man leaves his woman on Valentine's to go meet his friend. And now she's asking me to come out clean if I'm seeing someone else. I'm just done. I'm even starting to become alcoholic.

]]>http://localhost:4567/post/42http://localhost:4567/post/42Sat, 14 Feb 2026 13:10:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to About To Call It Quits on Fri, 13 Feb 2026 16:33:45 GMT]]>Before I shoot I might ask a few questions

  1. How do you guys relate in terms of communication
  2. When you are home early after work how does she act welcoming, silent....
  3. Is it her choice to be a house wife?
]]>http://localhost:4567/post/38http://localhost:4567/post/38Fri, 13 Feb 2026 16:33:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to About To Call It Quits on Wed, 11 Feb 2026 12:32:58 GMT]]>Thank you Okelele for your advise. My big sister came over yesterday to talk to her. Lemme see how it goes. I tried checking therapy options but these are quite expensive. Plus, I just don't feel comfortable discussing my issues with someone openly. I read your post on staying sober after you quit alcohol and I must congratulate you. For me I've tried stopping but after a week I can't just hold out. But am not a heavy drinker. I'll drop by later after work and leave a comment on your story.

]]>http://localhost:4567/post/29http://localhost:4567/post/29Wed, 11 Feb 2026 12:32:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to About To Call It Quits on Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:49:19 GMT]]>Hello bro, so sorry to hear your story. From what I hear and also from experience, I can tell you most marriages struggle after two years and perhaps this should console you. What you're going through is not unique to you. I don't support at all what your wife is doing but given you mention she is a stay home mum with your eight month's baby, she could be going through her own struggles. It could be she's having postpartum, which at times could also be dangerous for your daughter. I would strongly suggest you consider going for therapy.

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